Stardate S03E16
Mood: š„µ. Less proactive, more reactive as of late. Seems like somethingās a bit off with my game.
š¹ What am I grateful for this week?
Turns out people were pretty understanding when I needed to shuffle my plans around. I usually try to avoid doing this as I hate inconveniencing others (yet I can see itās done to me all the time) but perhaps I donāt need to be so uptight about schedules.
Iām also enjoying forging a lot of new connections, both through work-related chats and rekindling old ones from my network. If I compare the five people I spend the most time interacting with now, compared to a year or two ago, it feels like itās shifting in the right direction.*
šµ What do I wish could have gone differently?
Itās been a while since Iāve been repeatedly chased for my work**, or at least how Iām going about it. And I get it ā I probably donāt appear to be as āon itā (even though I believe I can get to the same outcome) in part because of my aversion to picking up the phone. Plus there are business pressures to be mindful of. But whatās surprising to me is the difference in feeling it leaves when you feel your autonomy is slipping away. Maybe Iāve been lucky to not feel that pressure for long enough, that I now need to recondition myself to it?
š” What do I need to remember?
Slept on a few of my learnings from Anil Gabaās lecture at the INSEAD reunion weekend. He made the business argument for diversity in a similar way to Matt Syed, but added a few interesting layers:
- What makes for meaningful diversity depends on the context ā it should be the leaderās role to identify and shape this context
- Whereas diversity speaks to the composition of the group, inclusivity can be framed as a good process for combining group judgments to minimize bias
- Donāt fall for the trap of cutting the individual underperformer from a team. Instead consider the strongest composition of the remaining members, again from a D&I lens
A version of that last one comes up in the product delivery team context when youāre looking at rotations or rolling off teammates after a given milestone. I can imagine a future where our business considers and recommends moves from a D&I lens as well as the existing factors we look at today.
š What did I discover?
Loving this visual essay ā a hands-on walkthrough about how to combat exploitative product models (aka attention monsters) from the inside.
Hereās a spicy take on āthe customer is always rightā ā does it follow that āemployees are generally wrongā in an innovation context? Perhaps, when they offer solutions to their own problems rather than those of the customer.***
Fascinating article that Lisa spotted on tech salaries in and around the Netherlands. I wonder if this trend is manifesting itself in London as well?
And this last one is just plain funny. Humbled to have found it!
š AOB
Was due back into London last week, but extended my stay in Geneva to look after Lisa while she wasnāt feeling her best. As a result we were able to enjoy more home-cooked meals together, finish the latest Stranger Things, and I even got to soak in some lake vibes on a sunny Saturday. A great decision!
Although I couldnāt join in person, I still quite enjoyed dialing into this weekās āsecret societyā meet š¤. We watched parts of a great Diary of a CEO interview around happiness ā then had a lively discussion about managing expectations, embracing the downs alongside the ups for perspective it gives, and seeking contentment in the long run.
I harped on the word ādeserveā during our discussion (in my view, a source of toxicity) because it sets incorrect expectations about how the world works. Should you buy into the thesis that happiness equals reality minus expectations, thereās little good that a belief in deserving does for your long term happiness. Your expectations are only met in the best case, but most of the time youāre setting yourself up for disappointment.
Why embrace downside without potential upside? Better I think to try to remove it from your vocabulary.
*I used to be shier about reaching out, and got in my head a lot about whether the other person even wanted to hear from me or had time to respond. Turns out, when they donāt, itās fine, nothing bad actually happens. So Iām glad to see myself reaching out with more intention, and trying to maintain contact with folks who are happy to go beyond surface-level chats. I wonder if Iāll eventually get a Twitter friend into the top five ā maybe after I finish taking Kevonās course for a spin.
**Iām usually in the chaserās seat, and even that much I try to go about differently, so that the other party doesnāt feel that Iām breathing down their neck. Whatās the virtual/remote version of breathing down oneās neck ā is it breathing down your DMs?
***Cue the common UX refrain: you are not the user.